Husband
So, this is the Husband of the polyamorous couple. I don’t really know what to write about. My wife and I are very open with each other and neither one of us had to convince the other to open our marriage. It just kind of came up one day and we thought we would give it a shot. Unlike the wife, I’m not actively searching for another emotional relationship. I guess I lean a little more toward the swinger side of things while she leans more toward the poly side. While I’m not necessarily searching for another emotional relationship, I’m not avoiding it either. If I happen to like another person, I will explore it. At this point though, I just want physical, fuck buddy, type relationships. But with my shyness, social ineptitude, and general dislike of people, it can be hard to find others to do anything with. The wife is really the star of this show, I’m kind of like the extra in the background.
-Husband
July 12, 2008 at 5:15 am
Just my tossing in my 2…um 3 cents.
1. I don’t think you’re as socially inept as you think you are.
2. I didn’t notice much shyness.
3. You’re not always the “extra.” Rather, you were the main attraction for me.
July 12, 2008 at 3:27 pm
Husband, I understand your thoughts. Swinging was working fine for us. Admittedly, Gator has always had trouble separating sex and love but it was going good. I don’t have that problem. And I understand that some poly people do not get the swinging. My very base response to them is…you can love many and it usually takes more than one to fulfill all your needs (and I get this now). It’s the same way with sex. I sometimes takes more than one to fulfill all the needs/fantasies we each have. Not a problem in our relationship since we met them swinging we are still agreeable to group sex in one fashion or another. It just doesn’t happen as easily/frequently as we could do it swinging.
Vol